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Toksik pozitivlik<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Son zamanlar oxudu\u011fum bir \u00e7ox xarici elmi m\u0259qal\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 tez-tez \u201ctoksik pozitivlik\u201d terminin\u0259 rast g\u0259lir\u0259m. D\u00fczd\u00fcr, h\u0259l\u0259 ki, elmi termin kimi i\u015fl\u0259nmir, amma bir m\u00fcdd\u0259t sonra aktiv istifad\u0259 edil\u0259c\u0259yin\u0259 inan\u0131ram. X\u00fcsus\u0259n sosial mediadan aktiv istifad\u0259 ed\u0259n \u0259hali qruplar\u0131 aras\u0131nda bu hala daha \u00e7ox rast g\u0259linir. D\u00fcnyan\u0131n bir \u00e7ox \u00f6lk\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259 art\u0131q bu m\u00f6vzunu pisxoloqlar da ciddi t\u0259hlil etm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flayb. \u018ftraf\u0131m\u0131zda \u015f\u0259xsi v\u0259 ya i\u015f h\u0259yat\u0131nda \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc daim pozitiv t\u0259qdim ed\u0259n, g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259n insanlar var. D\u0259rin t\u0259hlil ets\u0259k, b\u0259zil\u0259rind\u0259 bu real pozitivlik deyil, toksik pozitivlikdir.<\/p>\n\n\n

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B\u0259s toksik pozitivlik n\u0259dir?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Toksik pozitivlik neqativ emosiya v\u0259 t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259l\u0259ri insan\u0131n m\u0259qs\u0259dli \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259n uzaqla\u015fd\u0131r\u0131lmas\u0131, ona qar\u015f\u0131 m\u00fcbariz\u0259 aparmas\u0131 v\u0259 ya inkar etm\u0259sidir.<\/strong> Dey\u0259 bil\u0259rsiniz ki, burada q\u0259bah\u0259t n\u0259 var? Q\u0259bah\u0259t olan insan\u0131n \u0259slind\u0259 hiss etdikl\u0259rini deyil, s\u00fcni \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259k ist\u0259diyi (reall\u0131qda is\u0259 el\u0259 deyil) \u0259hval\u0131 imitasiya etm\u0259sidir. Q\u0131sa m\u00fcdd\u0259td\u0259 insan\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc s\u0259f\u0259rb\u0259r etm\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn effektiv olsa da, toksik pozitivlik uzun m\u00fcdd\u0259t t\u0259tbiq edildikd\u0259 insan\u0131 reall\u0131qdan uzaqla\u015fd\u0131ra, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 t\u0259nqidi yana\u015fman\u0131 m\u0259hdudla\u015fd\u0131ra bil\u0259r. Son zamanlar bir \u00e7ox xan\u0131mlar\u0131n instagram postlar\u0131nda \u201cgood vibes only\u201d h\u0259\u015ft\u0259qini g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u0259m. Bax\u0131rsan ki, ehtiyac oldu-olmad\u0131 h\u0259r yerd\u0259 istifad\u0259 edilir v\u0259 sanki h\u0259r \u015fey g\u00f6z\u0259ldir, he\u00e7 n\u0259y\u0259 baxmayaraq h\u0259yat \u00e7ox maraql\u0131d\u0131r v\u0259 guya da o da bu h\u0259yat\u0131n h\u0259r an\u0131ndan h\u0259zz al\u0131r. Dediyim kimi bu hal\u0131n uzun m\u00fcdd\u0259t davam etm\u0259si \u201ck\u00fctl\u0259y\u0259 oynama\u201d tandeminin xronikil\u0259\u015fm\u0259sin\u0259 g\u0259tirib \u00e7\u0131xara bil\u0259r. Biz insan olaraq h\u0259yat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n h\u0259r an\u0131nda pozitiv v\u0259 ya neqativ emosiyalar, t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259l\u0259r ya\u015faya bil\u0259rik.H\u0259tta \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc optimizm\u0259 d\u0259 k\u00f6kl\u0259y\u0259\u00a0bil\u0259rik, amma insan m\u0259n\u0259vi rahatl\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u0259hval\u0131 il\u0259 s\u0259mimi \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 \u201c\u00fczl\u0259\u015f\u0259r\u0259k\u201d v\u0259 bu\u00a0yolla \u0259slind\u0259 \u201co a\u011fr\u0131lar\u0131 sona q\u0259d\u0259r ya\u015fayaraq v\u0259 dadaraq\u201d onlar\u0131 \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259n uzaqla\u015fd\u0131ra\u00a0bil\u0259r. S\u0259hv etmir\u0259ms\u0259, psixologiyada da bu c\u00fcr m\u00fcalic\u0259 metodu var. Aliml\u0259r deyir ki, neqativ emosiyalar \u0259slind\u0259 beyin v\u0259 ruh \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn n\u0259l\u0259rin d\u0259yi\u015fm\u0259li oldu\u011funa yol g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259n \u00f6n\u0259mli hissdir. D\u00fczd\u00fcr, dild\u0259 dem\u0259k asan g\u0259lir, t\u0259tbiqd\u0259 h\u0259r k\u0259s f\u0259rqli reaksiya ver\u0259 bil\u0259r. Atalar demi\u015f, q\u0131raqdan baxana dava asan g\u0259lir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bu terminin t\u0259tbiqini b\u0259zi n\u00fcmun\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 t\u0259svir ed\u0259 bils\u0259k, m\u0259nc\u0259, daha ayd\u0131n olar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, tutaq  ki, biri \u201ci\u015f get-ged\u0259 daha \u00e7ox m\u0259n\u0259 dar\u0131xd\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 g\u0259lm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r\u201d deyir v\u0259 siz  \u201cs\u0259n  \u015f\u00fckr et ki, he\u00e7 olmasa i\u015fin var, i\u015fi olmayan n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r adam var\u201d cavab\u0131 verirsiz. V\u0259 ya ba\u015fqa misal. \u0130nsan \u00f6z\u00fc d\u0259rin depressiya i\u00e7ind\u0259dir, b\u0259lli probleml\u0259ri var, amma dostlar\u0131 il\u0259 m\u00fczakir\u0259l\u0259r zaman\u0131 \u201ch\u0259r \u015fey \u0259lad\u0131r, \u00e7ox yax\u015f\u0131d\u0131r, x\u0131rda probleml\u0259r olur, amma h\u0259ll edirik\u201d tipli cavablar verir. \u018fslind\u0259 hissl\u0259rini etibarl\u0131 m\u00fchitd\u0259 s\u0259mimi \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 ifad\u0259 ets\u0259 rahatla\u015far. Neqativ emosiyalar\u0131n\u0131 s\u00fcni pozitivl\u0259 gizl\u0259m\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma\u011fa c\u0259hd etm\u0259kl\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc yormaz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Reall\u0131qda \u0259sl pozitivlikl\u0259 toksik pozitivliyi f\u0259rql\u0259ndirm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r. \u018fsl pozitivlik insan\u0131n v\u0259 ya qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fin neqativ emosiyalar\u0131n\u0131 inkar etmir. Onu anlay\u0131b, q\u0259bul edir v\u0259 bundan sonra m\u00f6vqe ortaya qoyur. Toksik pozitivlik is\u0259 bu misalda qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fi inand\u0131rma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r ki, \u0259slind\u0259 sizin ya\u015fad\u0131qlar\u0131n\u0131z neqativ emosiya v\u0259 ya t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259l\u0259r deyil, bu h\u0259r k\u0259sd\u0259 olur, sad\u0259c\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 inanmal\u0131san, n\u0259 bilim \u015f\u00fckr etm\u0259lis\u0259n, \u201cyax\u015f\u0131 g\u00f6r ki, yax\u015f\u0131 olsun\u201d falan. Onu da dem\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r ki, bir \u00e7ox insanlar  \u015f\u00fcurlu \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 tokisk pozitivlik n\u00fcmayi\u015f etdirmirl\u0259r. Sad\u0259c\u0259 hans\u0131sa hadis\u0259 v\u0259 t\u00f6vsiyy\u0259 \u0259sas\u0131nda d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259d\u0259n, analliz etm\u0259d\u0259n, qavramadan d\u0259bi, trendi, yana\u015fman\u0131 q\u0259bul edib. \u00c7ox adam\u0131n da haqq\u0131na girib \u201ctoksik pozitivlik n\u00fcmayi\u015f etdirirsiz\u201d dem\u0259k d\u00fcz olmazd\u0131. Yaz\u0131n\u0131n m\u0259qs\u0259di odur ki, onu oxuyan insanlar bu haqda \u0259n az\u0131 t\u0259krar d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcns\u00fcnl\u0259r v\u0259 n\u00f6vb\u0259ti bu hadis\u0259y\u0259 uy\u011fun v\u0259ziyy\u0259td\u0259 daha d\u0259rin t\u0259hlil ed\u0259 v\u0259 \u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 k\u0259nardan baxa bilsinl\u0259r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Toksik poizitivlikd\u0259n nec\u0259 xilas ola bil\u0259rik?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Zaman-zaman ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z m\u0259nfi, neqativ emosiya v\u0259 t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 daha d\u00fczg\u00fcn reaksiya verm\u0259yin yollar\u0131n\u0131 m\u00fct\u0259x\u0259ssisl\u0259r bel\u0259 izah edir;<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. \u0130\u015f v\u0259 \u015f\u0259xsi h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131zda ya\u015fanan hissl\u0259rinizi onun pozitiv v\u0259 ya neqativ olmas\u0131ndan asa\u0131l\u0131 olmayaraq oldu\u011fu kimi q\u0259bul etm\u0259k v\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u0259 d\u0259 bunu bu formada q\u0259bul etdirm\u0259k ilk \u015f\u0259rtdir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. \u0130kinci m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259d\u0259 is\u0259 art\u0131q reall\u0131\u011f\u0131 q\u0259bul etdiyiniz \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn m\u0259n\u0259vi rahatlama\u011f\u0131n\u0131z laz\u0131md\u0131r. O da \u00e7ox yax\u0131n \u00e7evr\u0259l\u0259r v\u0259 ya konkret \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259r, \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259 hissl\u0259rinizi b\u00f6l\u00fc\u015fm\u0259nizdir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. N\u00f6vb\u0259ti m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259d\u0259 is\u0259 reall\u0131\u011f\u0131 q\u0259bul edib, payla\u015f\u0131b rahatlayandan sonra birlikd\u0259 hans\u0131 h\u0259ll yollar\u0131n\u0131n m\u00fcmk\u00fcn oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259k v\u0259 h\u0259m\u0259n ilk add\u0131m n\u0259dirs\u0259, h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t\u0259 ke\u00e7m\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0130ndi ad\u0131n\u0131 xat\u0131rlam\u0131ram, amma bir \u0259dibin yax\u015f\u0131 bir s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc g\u0259nc vaxtlar\u0131mdan yad\u0131mda saxlam\u0131\u015fd\u0131m: \u201cDaim g\u00fcl\u0259n insanlarla yax\u015f\u0131 davran\u0131n, onlar h\u0259r-hans\u0131 bir yerd\u0259 t\u0259k olduqda a\u011flay\u0131rlar\u201d. Y\u0259qin ki, c\u00fcml\u0259ni d\u00fcz xat\u0131rlay\u0131ram, amma m\u0259\u011fzi bu formada idi. Odur ki, \u0259ziz dostlar, m\u0259n\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 s\u0259mimi s\u0259hv, qeyri-s\u0259mimi d\u00fczd\u0259n daha faydal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sizin d\u0259 bu m\u00f6vzuda fikirl\u0259rinizi bilm\u0259k maraql\u0131 olard\u0131. Yaz\u0131n, m\u00fczakir\u0259 ed\u0259k!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Rafiq Hunaltay<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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